Becoming a parent changes everything in our lives. Suddenly, we have someone’s interests who should always be above our own, whether we are or not yet ready. Unfortunately, there is no one standard guide on good parenting. There is no rule book on how to ensure you are going to be a good parent.
In fact, parents are so bombarded with different messages on what is right parenting; they cannot help but believe they can never be good parents. It has become easy to buy into the advices of those around us, such as our own parents, friends, and even the media that we constantly worry that our parenting style is ineffective. While these advices are worth listening to, not all of them would work for us and our kids. Constantly listening to others with regard to parenting and not taking into consideration our individual style and the unique needs of our children will lead nowhere near good parenting. This will only make us feel confused and overwhelmed all the time and our children feeling confused, if not distant from us.
The number one thing that parents should remember is that their kids are never their possessions. Kids are not puppets either. They will have their own individual styles that we as parents, cannot reign in just because we do not agree with these. There is no rule book for parenting because there is no logical way to control how children feel and behave. The best parenting tool is our own heart. Parents should learn to use their hearts to listen to their children. Parents have instincts when it comes to their children that others would not ever have. Parents know their children best, and even their own selves the best, so they should know how to make the best decisions for their children. Good parenting starts from knowing and caring for your family more than anyone.
Parenting is not easy, especially if children are off to school and are meeting new people, experiencing new environments, and learning new things. However, parenting should not start and stop at home. Parents should have specific understanding of their roles in their children’s academic life. Most of the time, parents have their own beliefs with regard to their rights, obligations and duties that influence their involvement.
Moreover, being involved is shaped largely by history as well as the parents’ affective responses to the school. The beliefs and attitudes of the parents are determinants of what parents imagine and anticipate being the best behavior towards their children’s academic achievement should be. Parents form their beliefs and perspectives of their involvement during their participation in groups related to child-rearing practice such as their families, schools, religions groups and more others. Nonetheless, good parents should be able to transcend everything and just be involved for their children’s sake. Children need their parents in all aspects of their lives, not to be a controlling figure, but someone who would be truly engaging and supportive of their well-being.